This is inherently difficult for us in any high-stress situation, especially now, for two reasons:
-negativity bias: this is a cognitive bias (read more here) that alters human perception to focus on the negatives (we are trying to assess threats efficiently in day to day life). This particular adaptation becomes an obstacle here because there is *so much threat to see* that we *can’t even see* the good. We actually have to limit our view to gain a true perspective. (Again temporarily) We have to *not look* at a majority of the information coming in globally. We don’t entirely ignore it; but, we can’t let it overwhelm us. We have to make room for the good in our analysis and our lives.
-humans aren’t great with ambivalence. It’s clear from *how we use the word* that we don’t generally appreciate its full meaning. And we certainly don’t give it enough credit. We have falsely conflated the respectful solemnity for loss and grief with the entirety of our thoughts and actions surrounding a tragedy. We try so hard to make things black and white, good and bad, respectful or joyous; that it kills us. Literally. Hypocrisy aside, we need to understand that we are able and allowed to be happy about things in our lives and still maintain an undiminished sense of sorrow for this global tragedy.